Raising Resilience in High Schoolers

Teenage girl demonstrating resilience as she celebrates winning a volleyball game Your high schooler may be exploring their identity, becoming more independent, spending more time with friends and trying to keep up with the increasing demands of school. While they’re on their way to becoming adults, they still need you. Teenagers’ brains are still developing, and they need your help learning to plan, problem solve and make decisions.

Whether it’s at school, with their peers or in the world around them, your teen is likely facing new or increased pressure. Managing stress in healthy ways isn’t something anyone is born knowing how to do. All teens need help learning how to identify, express and cope with their feelings in healthy ways.

Figuring out how to encourage your teen to be independent, while keeping them safe, can be both overwhelming and confusing. While some teens may want to do more and more on their own, others may need a little push. Either way, part of becoming more independent is giving things a try and making mistakes. You can help them by offering guidance and being consistent with expectations.

As your teen becomes busier, and spends more time with their peers or engaged in activities (or screen time), you may wonder how to connect with them. Part of staying connected is making time to check in and simply starting the conversation. You don’t have to know all the answers—just being a listening ear and a safe space to share how they’re really feeling can make all the difference.

Use these resources to work on raising resilience with the children in your life.

Call or text 988 if you or a loved one are experiencing thoughts of suicide, self-harm or any mental health crisis. You can also chat or text for support by downloading the MyGCAL app in the App Store. Any thoughts of suicide should be taken seriously.