Tips for Communicating with Students
There are so many things out of our control on any given day, but one thing you can control is communication with your students. It’s natural to want to shield kids from fear, but kids are affected by what is happening around them whether we acknowledge it or not, and not acknowledging it can cause more harm than good.
Addressing changes and challenges with your students
- Be honest and direct. Students of all ages will notice and be impacted by any changes within the school.
Be honest and clear about:
- Why changes are happening.
- What changes students can expect.
Talking to students about their feelings
- Be aware of your own feelings and try to stay calm. You are human, and you have feelings. It’s OK and normal to feel overwhelmed or anxious about what is happening; just keep in mind that kids look to adults to see how they should behave or react. As hard as it may be, try to stay calm while talking with your students about how they are feeling. If you’re feeling anxious, wait to talk with them until you’ve calmed down.
- Ask open-ended questions. When checking in with students about how they are feeling, use open-ended questions, and try not to offer suggestions or make assumptions.
- Validate and normalize feelings. It’s natural to want to make kids feel better, but try to avoid dismissing their feelings by saying things like, “You don’t need to worry about it.” Dismissing their feelings doesn’t eliminate those feelings, it only teaches kids not to talk about them. Whether it makes sense to you or not, your students’ feelings are real to them. When they share a feeling, let them know you understand by repeating back exactly what you hear, without judging or interpreting, and let them know it’s OK and normal to feel that way.
- Offer reassurance. Rather than getting lost thinking about the unknowns, one way you can help manage everyone’s anxiety is to focus on the facts, what you do know and what you have control over. Help your students focus on what they can do to stay safe and healthy, such as washing their hands regularly and following the social distancing expectations. You can also remind your students that experts are hard at work keeping us safe and healthy.
- Teach and practice healthy coping skills. No one is born knowing how to cope. We all need to learn and practice healthy coping strategies so that we have a variety of tools to rely on to manage our feelings. Provide simple opportunities for students to learn and practice coping skills regularly throughout the day. It doesn’t have to take long or be complicated. Incorporating coping skills can be as simple as doing a few jumping jacks, practicing deep breathing, taking a mindfulness break, playing some music, getting up and dancing, etc.