Raising Resilience in Middle Schoolers

Raising resilience in middle school age children Forgetting your locker combination. Making new friends. Getting lost in the hallway. Exploring new interests and activities. Middle school comes with a lot of new things to figure out. Some of these things may be challenging and scary, and others may be fun and exciting. Through it all, your middle schooler needs your help learning how to build resilience and cope with the ups and downs. 

As your middle schooler becomes more independent and spends more time with peers, you may not feel as close to them as you used to be. By intentionally making time for regular connection, you’re giving your child a chance to talk about what’s on their mind, express their feelings and share their needs.

Your child may be learning to handle new levels of independence and all that comes with it. It’s not only natural, but it’s also important for kids to flex those independent muscles (e.g., trying things on their own)—it builds confidence! At the same time, kids this age are still struggling with impulse control, problem-solving and decision-making. They need our help learning appropriate limits and expectations.

As kids continue to grow and develop, they face new situations and experience new feelings. While your middle schooler might act as though they don’t need your help, they do! They still need help learning how to identify, express and cope with their feelings in healthy ways. Understanding how they feel gives kids a sense of control and helps them manage stress.

Use these resources to work on raising resilience with the children in your life.

Call or text 988 if you or a loved one are experiencing thoughts of suicide, self-harm or any mental health crisis. You can also chat or text for support by downloading the MyGCAL app in the App Store. Any thoughts of suicide should be taken seriously.